My Life, Readathons, Art and more – A short return to my blogging life

Wait. Before you get all excited, I’m not “back”, just, you know, for one post probably. It’s been a really long time since I sat down and just wrote a blog post and it feels so natural and easy that it kinda makes me wonder why I don’t do it more often. But I also know that I don’t want to come back, definitely not in the way I used to blog. I’ve thought about it, of course, but I never actually seriously considered it. Which says a lot, I think. However, that’s not what this post is about.

I wanted to talk about some things, so I’m going to just combine everything here and probably ramble a lot but you should be used to that from me now.

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How I am?

I’m doing really well. I’m graduating from my master’s this summer and I’ve already done my master thesis (and I’m pretty sure I passed but I’ll know for sure in a few days). Right now I’m in the final phase, which is an internship. I’m interning at this small company that develops AR software and I’m doing research on why people are resistant to implementing new technologies and why people do or do not buy their software. It sounds complicated but it’s really interesting and I’m having a good time.

Beside that, I’m a bit stressed about The Future, if you know what I mean. As I’m graduating, I’m going to have to really be an adult and find a job and probably a new home and all that and I have basically no idea what I’m doing, so that’s fun…


Before I forget, I want to HIGHLY encourage you to donate to the common bonds anthology if you haven’t already. It’s an anthology with aro and ace stories and poems and to make the stretch goal they need a little bit more money! That way they’ll be able to give their writers a decent pay!

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Two readathons are taking place in April that I both want to take part in and I needed to make a TBR and I thought there was no way I was going to fit this all in a twitter thread so that was my main idea for writing a blog post. And then I thought, why not talk about everything else too?

UnsolvedAthon is taking place from April 1st until April 30th and it looks so amazing. Just check out the announcement post because I’m sure it’ll impress you. And because Aspec April is taking place at the same time (first two weeks of April), I am combining both into a big readathon. I will be reading only books with aro-ace-spec characters in the entirety of April while also trying to do as many challenges from both readathons as possible (which is hard in case you were wondering).

UnsolvedAthon is based on the well-known Buzzfeed Unsolved series on youtube (if you like mystery or true-crime or paranormal, CHECK IT OUT). The goal of Unsolvedthon is to “solve” a case, and to do that you have to solve all 10 clues (in other words read 10 books). There are two paths you can follow: Ryan and Shane and for both paths there are different challenges. Check out this amazing game board they’ve designed!!


I have chosen for Ryan! Not only is he my favourite of the two but his challenges were also a little bit easier for me haha. All the challenges are related to episodes, and before I will go to my tbr, I need to talk more about Aspec April!

As said it takes place from April 1st until April 14, but because I didn’t realize it was only two weeks and not the entire month (oops), I made my tbr for the entire month. And I didn’t keep into account that you’re supposed to read only ace books in the first week and aro books in the second soooo… I’m not exactly following the rules haha

A-spec April also comes with some challenges, which you can see below.

So without further ado, my tbr!

The Search for the Mysterious Mothman: Read a book about a mythical creature or a monster.

A-spec character of color

Sawkill Girls by Claire Legrand

I actually started this book before and then I realized it was fantasy and quit but I’m determined to give it another go and read it fully now. It’s about these girls living on an island and girls go missing and there’s some strange forest creature thing idk. It has a black asexual lead.

The Chilling Mystery of the Black Dahlia: Read a very well-known/famous book.

A book recommended to you

What If It’s Us by Becky Albertalli and Adam Silvera

I have kinda been wanting to read this book but I also heard some mixed opinions. But then in my search for a “famous” book, I couldn’t come up with any books that are more famous and have an a-spec character (except probably some high fantasy book that I definitely don’t want to read). This book has, as I’ve heard, a demisexual side character

The Murders that Haunt the Lizzie Borden House: Read a book with an anti-hero or villain as the main character.

Character on both the aro and ace spectrum

Immoral Code by Lilian Clark

I have been wanting to read Immoral Code since I first heard about it. It’s about this ragtag group of students who hack and one of them is aro-ace and I mean it’s described as “Ocean’s 8 meets The Breakfast Club” so there’s no way I’m not reading it.

The Grisly Murders of Jack the Ripper: Read a book about a serial killer or a murderer.

Sawkill Girls by Claire Legrand

I am once again using this book because I don’t think I’m going to be able to read 10 books in a single month.

Roswell’s Bizarre UFO Crash: Read a book involving aliens or outer space.

Sci-fi or fantasy

One Giant Leap by Heather Kaczinski

This is the second book in a duology about an Indian-American teen competing to go to space. She’s asexual/questioning. I actually already started this book but I haven’t gotten too far, so I’m counting it.

The Enigmatic Death of the Isdal Woman: Read a book involving spies or espionage.

Readathon group read

The Spy with the Red Balloon by Katherine Locke

This is one of the group reads for the A-spec April readathon and I was actually already planning to read it before it was announced so that worked out great! I’ve been told it has an asexual main character and that it’s about spies in WWII I believe. That’s all I know.

The Haunting of Hannah Williams: Read a book involving ghosts or spirits.


An Unkindness of Ghosts by Rivers Solomon

I’m actually not even sure there’s ghosts in this book, BUT it’s in the title so that’s good enough for me hahah

I honestly don’t know much about this book except that it’s about space..? It has an aro-ace side character though!

The Historic Disappearance of Louis Le Prince: Read an unknown book or a book that has less than 500 ratings on Goodreads.

Novella or short story

We Go Forward by Alison Evans

I have been wanting to read this novella for a long time but I never got around to it, and I saw that it was on Scribd now, so I thought, why not read it now? It’s about a road trip, and one of the MCs is aro-ace.

The Haunted Town of Tombstone: Read a book about an outlaw/a group of outlaws.

I’m reusing Immoral Code for this one!

The Odd Vanishing of Amelia Earhart: Read a book with a female main character.

If I have time left to read another book, I got three options for this one If I was Your Girl by Meredith Russo, The Birds, The Bees, and You and Me by Olivia Hinebaugh and Let’s Talk About Love by Claire Kann. And if I don’t have time, I’ll just let another book count for this challenge too. I do want to read all three of these books at some point though.


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Before I end this already way too long blog post, I want to talk a little about my art. As you might or might not know, back in December I started a 365 day art challenge together with the lovely Kate from All The Trinkets. We’ve challenged ourselves to draw every single day for a year and so far it’s been really great. I’ve improved A LOT and gotten even more motivated to keep drawing, so I thought I’d give you a little overview of art I’ve made lately and if you’re interested, you can follow my progress on my art instagram @lostinink_. You can also commission me to draw you something, for my prices check the art commission button on the menu above!


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I hope you didn’t miss me too much, and that you enjoyed this little return to blogging. This will probably not happen much so cherish it haha. Do you make art? Let me know so I can follow you! Also let me know if you’re going to take part in one of the readathon so I can check out your tbrs 🙂

Q&A | Who even am I? + My Life + Recent Obsessions

Since I feel like a lot of you only know my reading tastes and not really much about me, I thought I’d do a little Q&A about my life and everything else. The questions are all from Aradhna, Emon Economist, and Olivia. Thank you all! If you somehow didn’t know this, my name is Lia and I’m Dutch. I’m 21 years old. I’m obsessed with a lot of things like space, psychology, feminism, Hamilton, watching youtube, creating things, and, of course, books.

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Looking back at 2017 | This Time Next Year Tag

This time last year, I made a list of goals and I just remembered I did that so now we’re going to look back at these goals and see if I actually accomplished them! I did the This Time Next Year Tag and I’ll look back at that! I will also make new goals for 2018.

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Aromanticism: Answering All The Questions You Probably Wanted To Ask But Didn’t.

Because nobody sent me questions (I’m looking at you twitter folks. No hard feelings :P), I’m just going to answer all the questions I ask myself way too often and then answer them too (because why not). The reason for me doing this Q&A is because I think aromanticism is relatively unknown and though it is part of the LGBT+ spectrum, it gets little attention. When I asked whether people would be interested in reading this Q&A 28% did not even know what it was. So it is time!

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Youtube Channels I Follow & Love

Before last summer, the only reason I came to youtube was for music, however, this changed a lot. Now I follow quite a bunch of channels and have discovered amazing content, so I thought it was time to share the love and share this with you.


Ariel Bisset – Ariel has the most amazing content, although her taste in books is not really the same as mine, her personality makes every video worth watching. She has a lot of discussions and they always inspire me and make me think.

A Clockwork Reader – I think this is one of the only “mainstream/famous” booktubers I follow, but she just has a wonderful voice to listen to and her opinions are always so honest and she seems like a kind and awesome person.

The Book Leo – I initially followed her because she’s Dutch and I like that 😛 She’s really creative in her videos and content! However, she isn’t uploading as much anymore, which I think is sad, but watching her older videos is still a joy.

The Book Prophet – Last but not least, my friend Savannah from over at The Book Prophet only recently started a booktube channel and you should all go follow her because she’s awesome!

Writers & Vloggers

Alice Oseman – The writer of Radio Silence and Solitaire not only has a lovely character but is also really fun to listen to. She has fun vlogs but also how-to videos on writing.

Akemi Dawn Bowman – I followed her channel before I won a giveaway from her, and I’m sad to say I’ve not yet have read the ARC of the book Starfish I received (it has been on my shelves for what feels like forever), but I can’t wait to read it! Akemi is a fangirl and does bookish unboxings and she’s just super nice!

vlogbrothers – This is by far my absolute favourite of this list. Hank and John Green (yes, the writer) are two of my favourite people in this world. They are funny, sensible, intelligent, inspiring, kind and create awesome content. If you look through their videos they discuss topics from politics to cats, from life advice to silly jokes, anything goes.

Photography & Video

Mango Street – This channel I only discovered recently but they share a lot of inspiring tips and tricks to get better at photography, plus (sorry Idk their names) the people behind it are really nice people and just fun to listen to.

Peter McKinnon – Peter is a very talented photographer that shares amazing content and lots and lots of tips. He also vlogs and he seems like an awesome person.

Ollie Ritchie – If you’ve followed me on twitter (@lost_in_a_story), you might have noticed me raving about this person. Ollie is a video maker and photographer and his work is just phenomenal. It’s so inspiring (especially some of his earlier work, I’m a huge fan of MOUNTAINS, a short movie) and watching his videos just makes you want to go out and see the world.


Vox – This channel has such interesting videos and I already learned a lot from all the ones I watched. If you’re interested in basically anything, go check out their channel.

Have you found some new youtubers you want to follow from this list? Who is your favourite youtuber?

Random update (projects + my writing + exciting news)

Hellooooo, this is super random because I didn’t know what to post today. I’m still working on the newbie blogger project and I’ve been waiting for more submissions. I’ve gotten a few but I’d love to get some more to get this project really started. So, if you’re new at blogging, go check out this post.

I’m going to participate in a couple of projects, first The Typewriter Project by Mahriya from My Bookish Life, which I’m 100% sure will be super awesome. It’s a writing project and there are challenges and stuff, and you can still participate if you want (but be quick! Deadline is the 17th). Second, the Big Blogger, Little Blogger project by Mikaela from A Well Thumbed Reader, whose blog I only just discovered but already love. Basically bigger bloggers (which is me whoohoo) take little bloggers under their wing and try to help them. Sadly you can’t participate anymore because couples have already been formed. My partners are *drumroll* Nicole and Antonia from A Dance Between Pages and I’m super excited to get to know them, so hi Nicole! Hi Antonia!

I wanted to upgrade my url from my blog because I’ve been wanting to do that from the beginning but it’s so expensive… and it would be such a hassle to change it so, yeah that’s not happening any day soon.

My writing has been getting a bit less priority and is last on my to-do lists, which are pretty big. I haven’t even had the time or motivation to write a single word this week. I’ve been planning in my head and thinking about the characters of this book AND the next, and I can’t really wait to start really working on that, but like I said, time is an issue.

What I’ve been up to lately is a lot of reading, I’ve been trying to get through my ARC to-be-read list, which is pretty big. I’ve been writing reviews and scheduling those. So when I’ve gotten that over with, I can continue with all those books that have been not-so-patiently waiting on my shelves.

Last week I’ve been at uni for projects pretty much every day until late, which is exhausting, but surprisingly fun. I’m hoping that this week will be less busy and I can start writing again.

But now, for the exciting news, today I got a notification from wordpress, I HAVE REACHED 500 FOLLOWERS. LIKE WHATTT??? I would love to give back some love to the community, so if you’ve got an idea for something I can do…? Suggestions are welcome. And who knows maybe there will be a giveaway in the future?


The Who Am I Tag

Back in December I was tagged for the Who Am I Tag by Emma Lauren from Corn Book Reviews, thank you Emma! This is a really interesting tag, and very different from the types of tags I usually do.

The Questions

  1. What is the meaning of my name?

Lia means nothing except that it’s an abbreviation from names ending in “lia”, but my real name actually has a beautiful meaning (which I cannot tell you because I don’t want you knowing my name).

  1. What is my Myer-Briggs personality type? (Link)


Mediator personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, Mediators have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the Mediator personality type but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

I like this! It really fits my personality. However, I might be a little less dreamy as this description says, and I also am not really gifted at languages. I have done such a test a while ago and then I got ISTJ, which is a lot different. While filling out this test I realised how much more confident I have become in the last couple of years!

  1. What is my Zodiac Sign?

This is always a problem for me because I’m in between Leo and Virgo, it really depends on the horoscope. I believe that because the zodiac signs shifted that I’m officially a Leo though.

  1. What is my Hogwarts House? (Link)

My initial thought: Hufflepuff (and a little Ravenclaw)

According to the test:

Hufflepuff – 17
Ravenclaw – 13
Gryffindor – 9
Slytherin – 7

Hah I was right!

  1. What is my learning style? (LINK)
  • Visual 4
  • Aural 7
  • Read/Write 4
  • Kinesthetic 7

You have a multimodal learning preference. (AK)

Not sure what that means, but I assume it’s good.

  1. Am I Right or Left Brain Dominant? (Link) 

I am left brain dominant because I am right handed and that is the real answer to this question but I’ll do the test just to see what it gives:

Left: 44%
Right: 56%
I use my brain equally.

  1.  What is my Blood Type?

I have absolutely no clue?

  1.  What Career Am I Meant To Have? (Link)

Writer. You have a skill for language, your imagination is vast and you are artistic and creative. Your brain is just overflowing with ideas, and all you have to do is get a piece of paper and share it with the world. You were born to turn words into magical stories

Hmm.. I’m on the right track then!

  1. Which Divergent Faction Do I Belong In? (Link)

My first thought was Erudite or maybe Amity but I never expected this! I’m apparently very fit for Candor, does that have anything to do with that I choose Blue in the quiz?

  1. What Does My Birth Order Say About Me? (Link)

I’m a second and middle child, which would mean that I am a social butterfly, peacekeeper, and fairness-obsessed, which I would not really say so. This probably has to do with the fact that I have an older brother (with aspergers), I act more like the first-born: a natural leader, ambitious, and responsible.

I am not tagging anyone, but I’m leaving this open for anyone who wants to! It’s really fun to do these little tests and think about what they say about you.

Do you think Candor fits me? I’ve never thought of myself as someone who would fit in Candor… Does your name has a fun meaning?